DW181: How to Know if You are a Workaholic and How it’s Hurting You with Diane Rolston
Are you wondering if you're a workaholic? Or maybe you wear the badge of being a workaholic with pride? In this episode, Diane Rolston shares 10 different things to help you know if you are a workaholic. She also talks about the ways how each of those is hurting you as well.
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Are you wondering if you're a workaholic? Or maybe
Diane Rolston:you wear the badge of being a workaholic with pride? Oh, this
Diane Rolston:episode is for you. If you think you are one or you know you are.
Diane Rolston:You're listening to the Dynamic Women podcast. Each week you'll
Diane Rolston:be inspired by our global community of women. They'll
Diane Rolston:share with you tools and stories to help you be dynamic in every
Diane Rolston:area of life. Here's your host, award-winning coach and the CEO
Diane Rolston:and founder of Dynamic Women, Diane Rolston.
Diane Rolston:Hello, lovely dynamic women. Welcome to the Dynamic Women
Diane Rolston:Podcast. I'm Diane Rolston, your host. Today we're going to talk
Diane Rolston:about how to know if you're a workaholic and how it's hurting
Diane Rolston:you. So I encourage you, first of all, go to the show notes
Diane Rolston:where you're going to be able to do the How Much of A Workaholic
Diane Rolston:Are You Quiz. Because you probably if you're listening to
Diane Rolston:this, have a strong inclination that you are a workaholic.
Diane Rolston:Now in society, it's often time so workaholics it shows that
Diane Rolston:you're passionate about what you do, you're proud of what you do.
Diane Rolston:And we're kind of in the position where we clap for you.
Diane Rolston:We go, oh, wow, you're so busy. And oh, you're doing so many
Diane Rolston:great things. And workaholics are often rewarded at work, they
Diane Rolston:often set the bar so high that it is like work, the company is
Diane Rolston:going wow, there's such a model employee, they're working so
Diane Rolston:hard, yet there could be damage that is being done to themselves
Diane Rolston:and to others.
Diane Rolston:So let me go through a bunch of the different aspects of how do
Diane Rolston:you know if you're a workaholic, I also encourage you to do the
Diane Rolston:quiz so that you know how much of a workaholic are you, I'm
Diane Rolston:also going to go through the different ways that it's hurting
Diane Rolston:you. And then in the next episode, I'm gonna go into more
Diane Rolston:detail about some really clear really simple ways that you can
Diane Rolston:stop being a workaholic, or at least reduce the amount of hurt
Diane Rolston:that it's doing to you. So how do you know you're a workaholic,
Diane Rolston:I'm gonna go through 10 different things, but I'll go
Diane Rolston:through them pretty quickly. But with each one, I'm going to tell
Diane Rolston:you how it's hurting you as well. And then hey, if by
Diane Rolston:listening to this, you're inspired to stop being
Diane Rolston:workaholic, wonderful.
Diane Rolston:Number one, you work longer hours than others. So maybe the
Diane Rolston:way this shows up, if you work in a company, as you show up
Diane Rolston:first you leave last in your business, maybe you are still
Diane Rolston:working into the night, where you maybe miss dinner, because
Diane Rolston:you're working or you don't finish your day till seven, or
Diane Rolston:maybe you finish at five, but then you go back to it for
Diane Rolston:another round between maybe seven and 10. And for the moms
Diane Rolston:out there, I know this often happens because your kids come
Diane Rolston:home at three. And so you're working later in the day. Now
Diane Rolston:working longer hours than others can lead to burnout, right?
Diane Rolston:Plus, it's taking away the time that you have to be off. So you
Diane Rolston:feel on all the time plus, it sets a precedence, especially if
Diane Rolston:you are at a company where they come to expect you to produce
Diane Rolston:that high level of work or that amount of work. Because you're
Diane Rolston:at those amount of hours. And when you try to reduce the
Diane Rolston:hours, you're not going to be able to get the same results.
Diane Rolston:It's just not possible with the amount of hours.
Diane Rolston:The second one is default is work, right? So you have a
Diane Rolston:couple of free hours here or there. You directly go to work.
Diane Rolston:And I see this a lot in my entrepreneurs. You got a couple
Diane Rolston:of hours on a Saturday afternoon, what do you decide to
Diane Rolston:do get assigned to work, right? And so you're always turning to
Diane Rolston:work rather than other things. So how is that hurting you? When
Diane Rolston:default is work, that's the thing that consumes most of your
Diane Rolston:time, and your energy, rather than the other things. And I'm
Diane Rolston:going to get into that one. Next.
Diane Rolston:So the third one is your fun and recreation part of life is
Diane Rolston:lacking. So if we look at the wheel of life, I do a wheel with
Diane Rolston:10 different areas. And in that when your fun and recreation
Diane Rolston:part is lacking, it means you're not having fun, you don't have
Diane Rolston:hobbies or other interests. And the issue with that. You're now
Diane Rolston:looking to work for all your fulfillment. You're not growing
Diane Rolston:as a person in other ways. And you're not able to just chill
Diane Rolston:out and have fun and develop yourself and be able to find I'm
Diane Rolston:going into a lot of the other points. I'm trying to curve
Diane Rolston:myself here. But when you don't have that fun and recreation,
Diane Rolston:then it feels scary to take time off. I know that one of my
Diane Rolston:clients in the past she had really a lot of hard hard time
Diane Rolston:wanting to take time off because with no fun and recreation. She
Diane Rolston:was worried about like what am I going to do when I'm not at
Diane Rolston:work.
Diane Rolston:The fourth thing is you're always thinking about work,
Diane Rolston:right? So you're at a dinner with girlfriends, you're
Diane Rolston:thinking about work. You're maybe hanging out with your
Diane Rolston:kids, you're thinking about work. You are on vacation,
Diane Rolston:you're thinking about work, and your brain is always on work, it
Diane Rolston:just doesn't get a time off. It doesn't have that opportunity to
Diane Rolston:say, okay, work is over here. And fun is over here and
Diane Rolston:families over here, it's just always going on in the
Diane Rolston:background, that's stressful. You maybe are always in that
Diane Rolston:kind of high level, adrenal gland cortisol pump in place,
Diane Rolston:that can lead to the next problem.
Diane Rolston:Number five, your stress is high. It's hurting you right?
Diane Rolston:When your stress is high cortisol levels are high, your
Diane Rolston:adrenal glands are pushing. This causes you to hold weight. I'm
Diane Rolston:not a doctor, but I've gone through this myself. And so your
Diane Rolston:stress is high, you're getting maybe headaches, you're getting
Diane Rolston:body pains, you're maybe getting sick more, because your body
Diane Rolston:doesn't have that time to rest and your mind doesn't have that
Diane Rolston:time to be off.
Diane Rolston:Number six, you don't take proper vacations. Hmm, yeah,
Diane Rolston:Have you have you taken like a 10 day vacation or a one week
Diane Rolston:vacation? Or what I've seen in clients is that they will book
Diane Rolston:time off, and they will fill those days with catching up on
Diane Rolston:work, or planning for the next quarter. That's not the
Diane Rolston:intention of a vacation. That's not the intention of taking time
Diane Rolston:off. Time off means not time on your work. And you're like,
Diane Rolston:Yeah, but that's that's what I liked doing with that time.
Diane Rolston:Well, maybe if you had the opportunity to lay on a beach,
Diane Rolston:or do an adventure, do a cruise, go sightseeing, I don't, learn
Diane Rolston:how to cook Thai food, do yoga retreat, maybe if you had the
Diane Rolston:opportunity to do that, then you'd allow yourself to have a
Diane Rolston:proper vacation and you'd enjoy it. When we don't have that
Diane Rolston:complete time off. It's hard to feel rested, you're not having
Diane Rolston:something to look forward to, you don't have something
Diane Rolston:different. And what I found in my recent vacation was, I was
Diane Rolston:able to connect more with who I fully am as a person, which was
Diane Rolston:really amazing.
Diane Rolston:The next one, number seven, you choose work over personal
Diane Rolston:commitments. And so maybe on a Friday, you see that you have a
Diane Rolston:doctor's appointment, but there's a report that you want
Diane Rolston:to work on a little bit more to finesse it a little bit more. So
Diane Rolston:you skip your doctor's appointment. Or maybe you're not
Diane Rolston:even making doctor's appointments at all. Or you're
Diane Rolston:not giving yourself the opportunity to go to the gym
Diane Rolston:because you have work to do you're not doing date nights,
Diane Rolston:you're not going to your your kids, maybe events that are
Diane Rolston:happening through school because you're choosing work. Maybe on
Diane Rolston:the weekends you miss out on stuff because you choose to work
Diane Rolston:rather than choose to do the things in your life that are
Diane Rolston:more personal and important to you in that regard. Because
Diane Rolston:you're choosing work now. Now does this hurt you? Well, it's
Diane Rolston:kind of obvious that the doctor stuff, maybe you're in pain and
Diane Rolston:you need to do physio or do massage and now you're not. And
Diane Rolston:so you're hurting even more, right? And you're also telling
Diane Rolston:yourself that you don't matter as much as work does that you're
Diane Rolston:going to push these things aside that they don't they don't
Diane Rolston:matter to you and so your circle and your bubble of what life is
Diane Rolston:like and what your experiences are get very, very, very small.
Diane Rolston:Number eight, you even work when you are sick or hurting. I'll
Diane Rolston:admit I've been guilty of this I had a speaking engagement and I
Diane Rolston:had food poisoning the night before and so the whole night I
Diane Rolston:was hugging the toilet bowl. not literally but I was hugging the
Diane Rolston:toilet bowl and was sick all night. And so I still showered
Diane Rolston:in the morning got ready and off I went. Now not ideal I did push
Diane Rolston:through but it was for that specific occasion. But when I
Diane Rolston:got COVID I took a week and a half off basically reduced my
Diane Rolston:hours. I cancelled things I just didn't try to push through and
Diane Rolston:any other time now that I'm sick or hurt I'm really try hard not
Diane Rolston:not to work but when you do that you risk the chance of, one
Diane Rolston:making other sick but two, the thing is that you are going to
Diane Rolston:extend the life of that illness or sickness or injury because
Diane Rolston:you're not resting. Think you can figure out how that can hurt
Diane Rolston:you, right?
Diane Rolston:Number nine you work through your lunch, right? Lunch, what's
Diane Rolston:lunch, I just sit and eat at my desk. And I'm super guilty of
Diane Rolston:this, I actually right there have lunch dishes sitting there,
Diane Rolston:and it happens, it happens. But when you don't take a break,
Diane Rolston:then your brain doesn't have time to just reset and have
Diane Rolston:quiet time. And so you fatigue a lot faster when you don't have
Diane Rolston:that break. Plus, it's not good for your eyes and your brain to
Diane Rolston:be staring at a computer or doing whatever you're doing
Diane Rolston:repetitively, or over and over again, without having that
Diane Rolston:moment of rest.
Diane Rolston:And the last one, you have a hard time unplugging from work.
Diane Rolston:Anyone guilty of that? Anyone been out and receiving messages?
Diane Rolston:Or kind of sneak off to the bathroom at a dinner to try and
Diane Rolston:take a work call? Or are you just oh, I just have to send
Diane Rolston:this email or I have to do this thing. Well, when you have a
Diane Rolston:hard time unplugging from work, it means you're always plugged
Diane Rolston:in. And when you're always plugged in, you're too easily
Diane Rolston:accessible. People get access to you people are constantly in
Diane Rolston:your space, and you don't have any time to just let everything
Diane Rolston:go to reset, to recharge, to rejuvenate. You're always on.
Diane Rolston:So in these 10, which ones are the ones you have the most
Diane Rolston:trouble with? I'd love to hear from you. Because what I'll do
Diane Rolston:is not only will in the next episode, will I talk about some
Diane Rolston:solutions that you can go through. But if you let me know
Diane Rolston:which ones are most, the most hard for you to get rid of. And
Diane Rolston:the ones that you want some more strategy around, I will create
Diane Rolston:some specific training videos on how to get rid of those specific
Diane Rolston:aspects of being a workaholic.
Diane Rolston:Now, I mentioned about the quiz, please do the quiz, because it's
Diane Rolston:gonna let you know how you know if you're workaholic and how
Diane Rolston:much of a workaholic, are you? That's kind of important,
Diane Rolston:because you're going to know if is this a problem? Or is this
Diane Rolston:something that's I kind of haven't checked, I just have to
Diane Rolston:watch it. So do that. That's going to give you some really
Diane Rolston:great insight. And if you're thinking Diane, well, I'd love
Diane Rolston:to not be a workaholic, I just have so much work.
Diane Rolston:Please know that we do have the Virtual Assistant Made Easy
Diane Rolston:Program where I hire a VA for you, a virtual assistant from
Diane Rolston:the Philippines. I then help you and your VA to figure out what
Diane Rolston:to delegate what to pass off. How do you train them all the
Diane Rolston:tools, I set everything up for you in the Tools area, so that
Diane Rolston:you can just jump in, use the pieces that I'm teaching you in
Diane Rolston:order to be able to pass off and delegate work to your VA's. Some
Diane Rolston:of the results my clients have had are being noticed and being
Diane Rolston:invited to do a speaking engagement. I've had a client
Diane Rolston:get three new clients in one week, another client in the
Diane Rolston:program finished their book, another client is making their
Diane Rolston:first course. And so there's so many opportunities to be able to
Diane Rolston:not be a workaholic by passing off some work. If you want to
Diane Rolston:know about more about that, please check the notes to find
Diane Rolston:the link for not only the quiz, but for the VA Made Easy
Diane Rolston:Program.
Diane Rolston:And if you would like to pass off your social media content
Diane Rolston:creation and social media management through scheduling of
Diane Rolston:your posts, then please reach out personally to me diane@diane
Diane Rolston:rolston.com. We have a very new, not fully launched program right
Diane Rolston:now, where we are going to provide those services where you
Diane Rolston:just provide me with a you know short piece of content and I'm
Diane Rolston:we're able to repurpose that right across the board. So it's
Diane Rolston:going to take you about 60 to 90 minutes a week total to have all
Diane Rolston:of your social media content created and posted by my VA
Diane Rolston:team. Sounds good.
Diane Rolston:Okay, so stay tuned for the next episode, where I am going to
Diane Rolston:give you some solutions to how to stop being a workaholic
Diane Rolston:because it's hurting you and we want you to be at like the
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